Song Lyrics: Not The Doctor

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Artist:Alanis Morissette
Albums: Unknown
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Lyrics

I don't want to be the filler if the void is solely yours
I don't want to be your glass of single malt whiskey
Hidden in the bottom drawer
I don't want to be a bandage if the wound is not mine
Lend me some fresh air
I don't want to be adored for what I merely represent to you
I don't want to be your babysitter
You're a very big boy now
I don't want to be your mother
I didn't carry you in my womb for nine months
Show me the back door

Visiting hours are 9 to 5 and if I show up at 10 past 6
Well I already know that you'd find some way to sneak me in and oh
Mind the empty bottle with the holes along the bottom
You see it's too much to ask for and I am not the doctor

I don't want to be the sweeper of the egg shells that you walk upon
And I don't want to be your other half, I believe that 1 and 1 make 2
I don't want to be your food or the light from the fridge on your face
At midnight, hey
What are you hungry for
I don't want to be the glue that holds your pieces together
I don't want to be your idol
See this pedestal is high and I'm afraid of heights
I don't want to be lived through
A vicarious occasion
Please open the window

Visiting hours are 9 to 5 and if I show up at 10 past 6
Well I already know that you'd find some way to sneak me in and oh
Mind the empty bottle with the holes along the bottom
You see it's too much to ask for and I am not the doctor

I don't want to live on someday when my motto is last week
I don't want to be responsible for your fractured heart
And it's wounded beat
I don't want to be a substitute for the smoke you've been inhaling
What do you thank me
What do you thank me for

Visiting hours are 9 to 5 and if I show up at 10 past 6
Well I already know that you'd find some way to sneak me in and oh
Mind the empty bottle with the holes along the bottom
You see it's too much to ask for and I am not the doctor

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Title: fixer-uppers    By: JC22
On: Thu., Nov. 9, 2006, 09:37 PM    (Rating: Average)
Do you ever catch yourself fixing, mending, repairing, patching, solving, restoring, giving, sharing, helping, supporting, bandaging...etc? I think this song is referring to codependence in relationships. I think it's saying, "Look, I love you...but I won't be with you just because you make me feel needed. I don't want you to NEED me...I want you to WANT me." I think that women especially have this tendency in relationships, and Alanis is setting us all straight again...and making us realize that our men do not have to be wounded and scarred to be feasible partners. We shouldn't have to drown ourselves in their pool of hopelessness...but instead...two people should grow together, help each other, and ride the two-way street of love. One must be healthy enough by him/herself in order to create a healthy partnership.
Title: RE: fixer-uppers    By: Jaize
On: Tue., Dec. 5, 2006, 04:36 AM    (Rating: Average)
I don't think its so much that the song implies that men don't have to be broken, more that if they are its not the purpose of a relationship to fix them; she's not the doctor.

And if he is broken its not her responcibility to fix him; she's not his mother. Her purpose in a relationship isn't to mend him, but to be in the relationship. She wants to be loved for what she is not what she represents to him, and doesn't want to bandage unless the wound is hers... 1 and 1 make 2...

I think you're nearly there JC22, but that its not so much about the fact that two people should grow together, more that a relationship/her purpose isn't to fix a broken heart.
Title: RE: fixer-uppers    By: JC22
On: Tue., Dec. 5, 2006, 04:52 AM    (Rating: Fair)
Actually, Jaize, that's exactly what I was saying but you just put it in different words. When you said, "Her purpose in a relationship isn't to mend him, but to be in the relationship," wouldn't you agree this is almost equivalent to my statement of, " I don't want you to NEED me (to mend, fix, etc.)...I want you to WANT me (to be in the relationship). So--I don't think I'm "nearly there," but rather I AM there =) Thanks for your comment though.
Title: RE: fixer-uppers    By: Jaize
On: Tue., Dec. 5, 2006, 06:50 AM    (Rating: Average)
Actually, the lyrics state nothing of a relationship intending to be a growth experiance between two people, just that her purpose isn't to fix him, that she can't do that. That's why I think you're slightly wrong in your original statement, and no, your original comment of "I don't want you to NEED me...I want you to WANT me" though now clarified reads as though its a statement about what a relationship should entail. And I still disagree with that. She's not saying that she doesn't want to fix him, but that she can't. "You see it's too much to ask for and I am not the doctor
" Your original statement was somewhat ambigous and because of the line infront of it read as though you thought the song was about what a relationship should be.

I disagree that "one must be healthy enough by him/herself in order to create a healthy partnership" because of the line:"I don't want to be a bandage if the wound is not mine" She's saying that even if he is damaged he has to heal himself, not use her or a relationship to do that, just as she only wants to have to bandage herself.

I don't agree with the song itself to be honest, growing in a relationship sometimes means healing old wounds and broken hearts, that's half its inteded point.
Title: RE: fixer-uppers    By: Anth
On: Fri., Dec. 8, 2006, 03:44 PM    (Rating: Average)
While I don't know the song other than reading these lyrics, I do get the impression that this guy has issues, and she doesn't want to handle them (even if she could). It sounds more like she wants an equal relationship, as well as a certain level of independance from eachother:


Quote:
See this pedestal is high and I'm afraid of heights

It's clear this guy is holding her up high, and has some issues with his confidence in the relationship and his ability to be "good enough" for her, and that's her biggest problem with him. She doesn't say anything against the guy in general, really, but she says a lot against his reliance on her. This is a common problem with relationships today, so it doesn't appear to be anything too profound.

The guy has issues, and she doesn't want to deal with them, IMHO. He's insecure, and wants her to support him... all the time, for everything.

I'm probably boiling down the significance of the song considerably, but I guess I don't think of the song as going much deeper than this - at least, without hearing it more....
Title: RE: fixer-uppers    By: JC22
On: Fri., Dec. 8, 2006, 04:03 PM    (Rating: Average)
Yeah I think the significance was probably broken down too much at this point, but I'm going to say something anyway. Ok, I agree that she might not BE ABLE to fix him in some sense; however, I do believe that she DOES NOT WANT to fix him. The two CAN and DO coexist. So often in relationships, women undertake that role because of what society tells them: that they are natural caregivers, nurturers, "fixer-uppers." How many times do women try to SAVE the men because they think the end result is a saved relationship? When in actuality, it's not a healthy relationship. It's just not possible, she CAN'T do it...so you are right. But I hold true to the idea that she does NOT WANT TO and lacks the emotional energy. She's exhausted. So when Anth says that this whole song was probably dissected too much, I partially agree...BUT based on a lot of personal/professional research about relationships, behavioral science, and working as a psych nurse, I feel confident in my theories. Alanis is smart and realizes that she does not have the capacity to fix him...therefore, CANNOT. However, some women actually THINK they CAN. Eventually they will wear out, lose the drive (and desire), and realize it's not possible. So two realizations come about: "I can't fix him, and I DON'T WANT to fix him....time to move on with my own life."
Title: RE: fixer-uppers    By: Snoflak80
On: Fri., Nov. 10, 2006, 04:32 AM    (Rating: Average)
Woman-up! I doubt she was writing about Ryan Reynolds, but if she was I can see why would want to stick around and fix him up! ;-)
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