Member: JC22
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| Last Online: | Mon., Jan. 22, 2007, 02:57 AM |
| Joined: | Aug. 21, 2006 |
| Comment Count: | 43 |
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| Title: RE: fixer-uppers By: JC22 |
| On: Fri., Dec. 8, 2006, 04:03 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Yeah I think the significance was probably broken down too much at this point, but I'm going to say something anyway. Ok, I agree that she might not BE ABLE to fix him in some sense; however, I do believe that she DOES NOT WANT to fix him. The two CAN and DO coexist. So often in relationships, women undertake that role because of what society tells them: that they are natural caregivers, nurturers, "fixer-uppers." How many times do women try to SAVE the men because they think the end result is a saved relationship? When in actuality, it's not a healthy relationship. It's just not possible, she CAN'T do it...so you are right. But I hold true to the idea that she does NOT WANT TO and lacks the emotional energy. She's exhausted. So when Anth says that this whole song was probably dissected too much, I partially agree...BUT based on a lot of personal/professional research about relationships, behavioral science, and working as a psych nurse, I feel confident in my theories. Alanis is smart and realizes that she does not have the capacity to fix him...therefore, CANNOT. However, some women actually THINK they CAN. Eventually they will wear out, lose the drive (and desire), and realize it's not possible. So two realizations come about: "I can't fix him, and I DON'T WANT to fix him....time to move on with my own life." |
| Title: RE: fixer-uppers By: JC22 |
| On: Tue., Dec. 5, 2006, 04:52 AM (Rating: Fair) |
| Actually, Jaize, that's exactly what I was saying but you just put it in different words. When you said, "Her purpose in a relationship isn't to mend him, but to be in the relationship," wouldn't you agree this is almost equivalent to my statement of, " I don't want you to NEED me (to mend, fix, etc.)...I want you to WANT me (to be in the relationship). So--I don't think I'm "nearly there," but rather I AM there =) Thanks for your comment though. |
| Title: fixer-uppers By: JC22 |
| On: Thu., Nov. 9, 2006, 09:37 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Do you ever catch yourself fixing, mending, repairing, patching, solving, restoring, giving, sharing, helping, supporting, bandaging...etc? I think this song is referring to codependence in relationships. I think it's saying, "Look, I love you...but I won't be with you just because you make me feel needed. I don't want you to NEED me...I want you to WANT me." I think that women especially have this tendency in relationships, and Alanis is setting us all straight again...and making us realize that our men do not have to be wounded and scarred to be feasible partners. We shouldn't have to drown ourselves in their pool of hopelessness...but instead...two people should grow together, help each other, and ride the two-way street of love. One must be healthy enough by him/herself in order to create a healthy partnership. |
| Title: RE: crush By: JC22 |
| On: Thu., Nov. 2, 2006, 05:55 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Haha, a sucker, I like that...Although, I should watch some Superman so I can see what you are talking about. All I know is how I feel about Batman (*sigh*). In order to be fully aware and capable of debating with Superman fans, I must know both sides...must have an open mind I guess! |
| Title: RE: The Departed By: JC22 |
| On: Thu., Nov. 2, 2006, 05:53 PM (Rating: Average) |
| I was referring to the pregnancy actually. But yeah, I see what you are saying. I could quite possibly be digging for some positive points. It could be a stretch. And no, you won't necessarily leave the theater with a sense of peace, but there were indeed softer parts of the film...Leo's interactions with the shrink, the hanging of the photo, the discovery of the pregnancy (with the father unknown in my opinion )...Like I said, this film exposed human flaws and wrongful tendencies...possibly exposed the sense of anger and hatred instilled in each and every one of us, whether it's apparent or not. But I strive to be an optimist in most situations, so those are my thoughts =) |
| Title: RE: The Departed By: JC22 |
| On: Thu., Nov. 2, 2006, 03:05 PM (Rating: Average) |
| You didn't pick up on the "seed of hope" I mentioned? |
| Title: small hands By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 09:58 PM (Rating: Average) |
| I think this song embodies the theme: to make a difference in at least one person's life, to make strides instead of conquering the world...to take struggles one day at a time. The verse that represents this is "My hands are small I know, but they're not yours, they are my own, and I am never broken. In the end only kindness matters." To touch just one life, to turn just one frown into a smile... One of my favorite lines of poetry has such a similar idea. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "To know one life has breathed easier because you have lived...this is to have succeeded." |
| Title: RE: The Departed By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 09:48 PM (Rating: Average) |
| (Pardon the errors...I caught a few after I posted it). |
| Title: The Departed By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 09:45 PM (Rating: Average) |
| First of all, if you haven't seen this movie, you may not want to read further...I don't disclose much...but just in case =) After seeing The Departed, I have to say that the all-star cast (Leonardo DiCaprio, Jack Nicholson, Matt Damon, Mark Wahlberg, Martin Sheen, Alec Baldwin, Vera Farmiga) did what they were expected to do. Typically, I am a fan of feel-good, inspirational, romantic comedies with somewhat predictable/often unrealistic endings (my boyfriend can agree to this one I'm sure).Although I normally don't volunteer to see films such as these, I decided to go along for the ride...and I'm glad I did. Since you can easily read movie reviews (and I don't want to spoil it for those who haven't seen it), I won't get into what it's about. However, I will comment on a few themes I have thought about. First of all, Martin Scorsese was effective in the sense that he pursuaded the audience into relating with the "bad guy," which is something not often experienced. I feel this relation helps establish an important theme: that sometimes people are not who they appear to be. This is true on so many levels. The "bad guy" was in fact was sensitive, vulnerable, and possessed integrity...something you don't often see with the supposed antagonist. A symbolic scene to represent this was when Leonardo DiCaprio picked up a photo (of the woman he was vying for) and hung it on the wall...allowing the woman to express herself, recall good memories, and at the same time, while let her know he cared for her deeply. Another significant theme I pondered brought me back to the "Survival of the Fittest" idea. I think this concept is widely used in this film....every man for himself, you cannot trust anyone but yourself. People who are supposed to be looking out for us may have ulterior motives and selfish agendas. This film has a way of exposing the raw human flaws present in all of us. Although this may seem like a bleak outlook, I feel faith is also instilled within the viewers as a seed of hope is planted toward the end of the movie... Any thoughts? Also, (more specifially) can you tell me what you think the seed of hope is? It's just one of my personal thoughts on symbols. |
| Title: RE: crush By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 08:39 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Well, well, well. I'd still go for Batman. Maybe I'm not aware of Superman's abilities though...I never watched it. |
| Title: skip By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 05:56 PM (Rating: Average) |
| I wish we could just skip over the poor contestants and go right to the great talent...the meat of the competition is what I always look forward to...listening to the singers who actually move me...rather than hurt my ears. Ouch. Plus, I'm an avid voter (addicting), and for this--I am made fun of regularly. Thanks to my one and only bro. |
| Title: skip By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 05:56 PM (Rating: Average) |
| I wish we could just skip over the poor contestants and go right to the great talent...the meat of the competition is what I always look forward to...listening to the singers who actually move me...rather than hurt my ears. Ouch. Plus, I'm an avid voter (addicting), and for this--I am made fun of regularly. Thanks to my one and only bro. |
| Title: home sweet home By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 05:53 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Oh good ole' West Fargo...how I miss it at times. My roots... Anyway, how's WFHS? Anything new? How about with NHS? I am a former president, so it's great to hear what kind of community activities you guys/gals are involved in...how about Big Brother/Big Sister with the elementary schools? Is that still going? Also, any new advisors? |
| Title: crush By: JC22 |
| On: Wed., Nov. 1, 2006, 05:48 PM (Rating: Average) |
| I have to go for Batman, personally...only because I had the biggest crush on him when I was a little Jenna. I would dream that he'd rescue me whenever I was caught in turmoil or in danger. *sigh* Then I realized he wasn't real, and my dreams were shattered. It's a good thing that dreams re-generate. |
| Title: RE: New Question By: JC22 |
| On: Tue., Oct. 31, 2006, 01:21 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Yeah you're right I think...I wasn't sure on the Pink Floyd one. Nice work =) |
| Title: RE: New Question By: JC22 |
| On: Tue., Oct. 31, 2006, 05:38 AM (Rating: Average) |
| Answer: "Dark Side of the Moon." Artist: Damien Rice Title: "Soft and Gentle" |
| Title: RE: New Question By: JC22 |
| On: Sun., Oct. 29, 2006, 03:24 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Answer: "Don't Go Away" Artist: Oasis Title: "Mysterious Barrier" |
| Title: RE: New Question By: JC22 |
| On: Sun., Oct. 29, 2006, 01:55 AM (Rating: Average) |
| Answer: "Sexy Back" Artist: Tom Petty Title: "Liberally Going Downward." |
| Title: RE: New Question By: JC22 |
| On: Fri., Oct. 27, 2006, 04:11 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Answer: "World On Fire" Artist: Jewel Title: "Idiotic Puzzles" |
| Title: RE: New Question By: JC22 |
| On: Fri., Oct. 27, 2006, 01:28 AM (Rating: Average) |
| Answer: "Loveshack" (one of my all time favorite songs to dance to at weddings BTW!!) ---- Artist: Rascal Flatts Title: "Sanctify the Damaged Path" |
| Title: RE: Best Alanis Song.. By: JC22 |
| On: Tue., Oct. 24, 2006, 11:41 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Anth, earlier you mentioned that I didn't state whether I agreed or disagreed with your comment. Well I agree for the most part...that men are mostly on their best behavior and do not disclose negative parts of themselves right away...in order to catch the woman's attention or "woo" her. However, I think that both men and women do this. As the comedian, Chris Rock, said in one of his stand-up shows--men and women do not show them true selves on the first few dates. They actually send their "representatives." I chuckled at this, but how true it is! We send our "representative" who serves to portray our BEST self. |
| Title: RE: Best Alanis Song.. By: JC22 |
| On: Tue., Oct. 24, 2006, 03:47 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Well, here it is. I believe that some guys charm a gal merely to get in her pants. That's a fact of life. She probably knows this going into the date (or whatever it is), but accepts it because she feels that if she gives herself physically, he will then fall for her emotionally...which shouldn't be that big of a surprise. Sex and love are way more associated for a woman than for a man. I realize this might seem like an unfair generalization...but I feel it is true initally. When a guy has time to fall for a woman...and see what she is about...and what she stands for...that's it. A woman just wants to feel loved and romanced at times. So sometimes she will ignore her intuition (that says "this guy is just playing around and doesn't really FEEL that strongly but instead wants a little somethin-somethin") in high hopes that his physical desire for her will turn into something good, something warm...something real. On |
| Title: RE: New Question By: JC22 |
| On: Tue., Oct. 24, 2006, 03:28 PM (Rating: Average) |
| Answer: "Optimistic." Artist: Collective Soul Title: "Escaping Transporation On Tracks." |
| Title: RE: American Idol By: JC22 |
| On: Tue., Oct. 24, 2006, 03:21 PM (Rating: Average) |
| I think you might learn to like it with me around =) Afterall, I'll have to watch it SOMEWHERE, right? Plus, it will just add to your list of fave shows, right up there with Nip Tuck (which always has such great acting and lines...). "I'm going to go home dreaming of your hands on my body." |
